It’s very difficult to be a pragmatic romantic

The very concepts contradict each other.

Take being terribly, hopelessly in love. While beautiful and very romantic, pragmatically it is neither sane nor healthy. To hinge completely on another person is not a desirable trait.

It works in movies and television and is glamorous that way. It’s not just because the script is written that way and it’s the way the characters are played, but because the characters are perfect romantic devices. Humans, on the other hand, are flawed. To be terribly, hopelessly in love with someone in a movie is a romantic trait, but in reality it is a grave flaw and can be extremely dangerous and harmful.

My idea of a perfect relationship is this: one person should not complete the other. You should not feel as though someone else makes you whole. You should be your own person, but find another who challenges you and supports you in a way that you become someone better than you could ever have been alone. And obviously vice versa. So here’s to the time I’ll be waiting to find that someone who I can be romantically, and pragmatically, in love with.